Why Alone Time Matters (Even When You Live in an RV)
Living in a small space as a family of five has taught us the value of intentional alone time. From date nights to one-on-one outings with the kids, here’s how we make space for connection and self-care on the road.
The Importance of Being Intentional with Alone Time
When you live in a small space like an RV with five people, two dogs, and a cat, it’s easy to feel like personal space is a luxury. The beauty of this lifestyle is the close connections it fosters, but we’ve also learned that intentional alone time is vital—not only for our individual well-being but also for our relationships as a family.
In a world that often glorifies constant togetherness, we’ve discovered the magic of carving out moments for solitude and focused one-on-one connections. Here’s how we’ve embraced intentional time alone as a family and why it’s been such a game-changer.
Date Nights: Prioritizing Each Other
One of the most important ways Drew and I stay connected is by having a weekly date night. Whether it’s a quiet dinner at a local restaurant, a walk along the beach, or sitting on the RV patio with a cup of coffee or tea, these moments are sacred to us.
Date nights give us the chance to step away from the busyness of family life and focus on each other. We talk about our goals, share laughs, and remind ourselves why we started this journey together. It’s amazing how even a couple of hours of uninterrupted time can strengthen a marriage.
One-on-One Time with the Kids
With three kids, it’s easy for family time to feel like a group activity all the time. While we cherish those moments, we’ve realized the value of spending one-on-one time with each of our children.
Whether it’s taking Phoebe out for ice cream, heading to the store with Rowan for a little shopping and bonding, or having a heart-to-heart conversation with Ethan over lunch, these individual moments help us connect on a deeper level. It allows us to understand their unique personalities, interests, and challenges. Plus, the kids light up when they get our undivided attention.
Teaching Independence
As parents, it’s natural to want to protect and guide your children constantly. But one of the lessons we’ve embraced is teaching independence, especially as our teenage son, Ethan, grows older.
There are times we intentionally leave Ethan home alone while we take the younger kids out. This not only gives him space to relax and enjoy some peace, but it also builds trust and independence. He appreciates the time to himself, and it’s a small step in preparing him for the future.
Finding Solitude in a Small Space
Living in an RV doesn’t leave much room for personal space, but we’ve found ways to make it work:
Solo Walks: Sometimes, I’ll take a walk with Coral or Griffin to clear my head, breathe fresh air, and enjoy a few moments of solitude.
Running and Weightlifting: Drew loves heading out for a solo run or focusing on his strength training. These activities are not only great for his fitness but also give him the mental clarity he needs.
Quiet Hobbies: I love taking time for yoga or photography, which allows me to recharge and reconnect with myself.
Setting Boundaries: We’ve taught the kids to respect when someone needs a little alone time. A closed door or a quiet moment on the RV patio signals “me time.”
The Benefits of Intentional Alone Time
Being intentional about time alone has brought so many benefits to our family:
Stronger Relationships: When Drew and I prioritize date nights and one-on-one time with the kids, our relationships feel deeper and more connected.
Improved Mental Health: Solitude gives each of us a chance to reflect, recharge, and return to family time with more energy and patience.
A More Harmonious Household: Teaching independence and respecting each other’s needs has created a more peaceful environment in our RV.
Final Thoughts
Intentional alone time isn’t about escaping from family life—it’s about making sure we’re the best versions of ourselves for the people we love. It’s about creating balance, showing our kids the value of self-care, and nurturing the relationships that matter most.
Whether it’s a weekly date night, solo adventures, or special moments with the kids, these intentional choices have enriched our lives and strengthened our bond as a family.